SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO
An 8-module on-demand course for women considering divorce.
Get the clarity and confidence you need in order to know you’re making an aligned decision for you and the relationship.
Registration Is Now ClosedFigure out whether your decisions are being driven by fear, shame, insecurity, social or familial expectations, or something else.
So many people just like you feel the same way…
- You feel dissatisfied in your marriage and can’t pinpoint why
- You’re trying to work on issues in your marriage but don’t feel like you are making progress
- You feel like you’re repeating unhealthy patterns and don’t know how to break them
- You’ve been questioning whether or not to leave your marriage for so long that you’ve lost your ability to trust yourself
- You know you need to leave but you can’t find the courage or strength to do it
- You worry about being judged, disliked, shamed, or seen as the one who gave up
- You feel like you’re failing
- You have a hard time believing that you can find love again after you divorce or that you become less desirable because of it
- You worry you’ll be hurting your children and that they won’t understand
As licensed marriage and family therapists we hear all of this and so much more time and time again. We know how hard it can be to know whether you should stay or go and the hours you spend ruminating over the decision.
We wanted to create something that is both rich in material as well as accessible to you no matter where you are in the world. Should I Stay Or Should I Go is a deep dive into assessing where you are in your marriage, understanding how cultural, familial, and societal views contribute to your challenges, identifying what your part is and what your partner’s part is, working on changing problematic patterns, and ultimately making a final decision that is aligned for you.
This course was birthed by Angelica Magana from her ever popular “Women Considering Divorce” group and is in collaboration with Vienna Pharaon. With over 25 years of collective experience, Angelica and Vienna have collaborated to bring you the education, exercises and tools, and their experience working with couples and individuals just like you who have faced this decision time and time again.
Meet Your Teachers
Angelica Magana
Angelica is a Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of New York. Angelica earned her Master of Science in Marital and Family Therapy from Northwestern University and received intensive clinical training in integrative and Systemic Psychotherapy at The Family Institute, Bette D. Harris Center. She has extensive experience working with couples and individuals in private practice settings.
Angelica run’s MindfulMFT’s “On Considering Divorce” group and has hundreds of hours of experience working with women who are considering divorce. She believes that the reason people feel so confused is because they have become disconnected from themselves. She focuses on using this difficult time to help women grow their relationships with themselves and go further inward to connect with intuition in order to make wise choices grounded in knowing, whether that is to stay or to leave.
Vienna Pharaon
Vienna is one of New York City’s top licensed Marriage and Family Therapists and the founder of the @MindfulMFT community on Instagram, where her teaching reaches over 600,000 readers daily. She has a Master of Science in Marriage & Family Therapy from Northwestern University, and trained extensively at The Family Institute, Bette D. Harris Center.
Through her practice, Mindful Marriage & Family Therapy, Vienna offers a systemic and collaborative approach to help her clients identify their patterns, explore their story, and create healthier goals. She looks at people and their relationships through the lens of their family systems and believes that understanding origin stories is crucial in healing and transformation. She has been featured on The Economist, Netflix, Vogue, and Men’s Health, and spoken on stages around the world.
This Course Is For You If
- You’ve been considering divorce but are struggling with the decision
- Feel scared of making the “wrong” decision
- You’ve been working on issues in your marriage but don’t feel like you’re making progress
- You struggle to know whether fear is keeping you in the marriage or driving you away from it
- You think that there’s a relationship more aligned out there for you but are afraid of regretting your decision
- You’ve been questioning whether or not to leave your marriage for so long that you’ve lost the ability to trust yourself
- You’re repeating unhealthy patterns and don’t know how to break them?
- You know you need to leave but can’t find the courage
Should I Stay Or Should I Go will give you the tools and education you need to take action and make choices that are grounded, integrated and healthy.
This course won’t be right for you if… you’re looking to be told what decisions you should make or if you’re looking for a quick fix. You’ll need to put in the work with this course to uncover the right path for you. Your path will be different from someone else’s, so what is aligned for you can only be felt through doing this work.
This course is also not for you if you’re in an abusive relationship. Although the material will be valuable, we highly recommend working with a professional so that care, support, and a plan is created specific to your situation. What we offer in this course is work that must be done in a safe setting.
How It Works
An Online Program That You Can Complete Privately & At Your Own Pace
You’ll get 2 modules unlocked each week. We do this because the course is designed for you to go in order and let each module build upon the one before. There is a lot of material in each module so we want you to go at a reasonable pace. You may need additional time and space between the modules, so go at your own pace and take your time with each lesson.
Explore 19 Video & Audio Guides
You’ll get 8 videos of us throughout the course, as well as 19 audio lessons guiding you through the lessons and teaching you how to integrate meaningful change in your life.
Downloadable Worksheets & Exercises With Each Module
In each of the 8 modules, you’ll receive worksheets and practices to integrate the tools and lessons on your own. You can revisit this program as and when you need to; you have lifetime access to all content.
Bonus: Live Call
October 13, 6:30 - 7:30pm ET
This is one of the rare times we will be offering a live call during the course. You'll be able to join us live to ask any questions you have.
8 Modules To Explore If You Should Stay Or Go
Module 1 - Beginning The Exploration Process
3 Parts
You'll focus on identifying where we are on the staying-or-going spectrum, learn about the art of questioning with openness to access our deep inner knowing, and identify the stories you unknowingly carry about marriage and divorce that maybe keeping you stuck.
Module 2 - Marriage Through Time
1 Part
Here you’ll explore cultural upbring, societal expectations, history of marriage and how the effects of the systems you are a part of have kept you from being able to connect in with Self and your truest expression.
You’ll learn about how modern-day notions of love portrayed in art have led to disappointment, as the focus is on falling in love, but not staying in love, and all the ways in which society has contributed to some of the dissatisfaction you feel in your marriage today.
Module 3 - Understanding Relationships
2 Parts
We will give you a framework for understanding healthy relationships and unhealthy dynamics and help you begin to identify the characteristics present in your relationship. You'll learn whether you are living with the normal challenges of a healthy relationship.
Module 4 - Understanding Your Relationship
2 Parts
In this module you will take a look at your relationship and understand what happened. You will learn about attachment theory and how early caregiver influences can show up in your romantic relationships. With this information, we will help you determine what more you can do to improve your situation (if anything more).
Module 5 - Understanding Your Inner World
3 Parts
You will go deeper and learn about all things related to your inner life: from the depth of the subconscious mind to making contact with the unconditioned true self. You will dive into how your mind is not just one unitary entity, but instead you are made of many different “parts” with their own roles. You’ll learn how to have a relationship with those parts, like the inner critic, so that they no longer drive the show.
Module 6 - Changing Your Relationship With Self
4 Parts
Here you will learn what to do with the information you learned about your inner world. We will teach you how to reveal the blocks you are unknowingly carrying and the importance of understanding your true needs so you can take a more active approach to changing problematic patterns in yourself and in your relationship.
Module 7 - Changing Problematic Patterns With Your Partner
2 Parts
You will go more in depth into figuring out what part you’ve played and what part your partner has played. You will take a look at the cycles in your marriage and learn where in those cycles you may have an opportunity to influence and change patterns and learn from the relationship. You’ll explore what this relationship has shown you about yourself.
Module 8 - The Decision
1 Part
You will explore the story you want to write for yourself, how to utilize the power of choice, and discover the best process for decision making.
BONUS: Module 9 - Divorce
1 Part
This is the bonus module for those that have made the decision to go forward with divorce and are needing support around closure, navigating this with children, and beginning to separate your lives. We will discuss untangling your lives, the end of the family system and ways to navigate divorce with children, and the importance of rituals and ceremony.
BONUS: LIVE CALL
October 13, 6:30 - 7:30pm ET
This is one of the rare times we will be offering a live call during the course. You'll be able to join us live to ask any questions you have.
What People Say About Angelica And Vienna
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Vienna is the real deal and in a world that is often filled with toxic positivity and platitudes. Her work honors the challenges that we face, while giving us hope that things could be better. Vienna teaches us that we have the power to create fulfilling relationships in a way that adds tremendous value to our lives and that is something we all need now more than ever.
- Nitika Chopra, Founder + CEO of Chronicon
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Throughout Angelica's divorce group, I was able to unpack the role I played in my marriage and how I got to where I did, got comfortable sitting through uncomfortable thoughts (“what will everyone think of me”), I reconnected with my inner child and realized I could keep her safe now. The power of this group, especially led so empathetically by Angelica, changed my life.
- Divorce Group Participant
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Vienna is the best of the best of the best. She is a master at not only understanding the human condition, but also at guiding people through their challenges to a play of resolution and freedom. Working with her has been one of the greatest gifts I have ever given myself, and I’m blessed to have been influenced by her in this lifetime.
- Mark Groves, Founder Create The Love
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Angelica's ability to crack us open to share the parts of ourselves we want to hide the most was incredible. She had an innate ability to read the group's needs, provide perfect content for the healing we needed and ask us the hard questions so we could continue to do the work long after the group ended. Her holistic approach to group therapy felt so safe and while working on channeling our inner children, that was so appreciated. I have no doubt anyone working with Angelica will be all the better for it. Thank you beyond words.
- Divorce Group Participant
