Module 1 - Beginning The Exploration Process

Part 1: Assess Where You Are
Start your journey by taking a clear, unbiased look at your relationship, breaking through the stories you’ve told yourself.

• Remove filters and get a true assessment of your relationship and where you stand.
• Understand how your partner may see things differently and what that means for you.
• Build the foundation for informed, honest decisions about staying or going.

Part 2: Finding Curiosity Over Judgment
Learn how to replace judgment with curiosity to unlock new insights about yourself and your relationship.

• Shift from punitive, judgmental self-questioning to compassionate, open inquiry.
• Discover how asking the right questions leads to deeper, more transformative answers.
• Break free from the patterns that keep you stuck by opening yourself to new possibilities.

Part 3: Exploring Your Narratives Around Divorce
Uncover the hidden beliefs and stories you’ve absorbed about marriage and divorce, and decide what’s truly yours.

• Examine societal, family, and personal narratives that shape your views on marriage and divorce.
• Identify outdated stories that are keeping you from moving forward.
• Align your beliefs with your true values and make empowered choices for your future.

Module 2 - Marriage Through Time

Explore how the evolution of marriage, societal expectations, and cultural norms shape your relationship beliefs today and may contribute to some of our marital dissatisfaction and disappointment.

• Understand how historical and societal shifts have influenced modern-day expectations of marriage.
• Learn why today’s marriages face greater emotional and personal fulfillment demands than ever before.
• Reflect on how patriarchy and past relationship models may have unconsciously shaped your current partnership dynamics.

Module 3 - Understanding Relationships

Part 1: Is My Marriage Healthy?
Learn how to identify the essential qualities of a healthy marriage and assess which ones are thriving—or need attention—in your own relationship.

• Discover the key traits that create deeply satisfying, thriving relationships, including trust, communication, emotional openness, and mutual respect.
• Identify the qualities that matter most to you and your partner for a fulfilling, lasting relationship.
• Assess how you and your partner have been showing up in the marriage and which areas need work.

Part 2: Healthy/Unhealthy Conflict
Understand the difference between healthy conflict that strengthens your relationship and toxic conflict that erodes connection.

• Learn to recognize the signs of healthy conflict, including curiosity, empathy, and a desire for resolution.
• Explore how unresolved conflict or avoidance can damage your relationship over time.
• Gain tools to assess whether your marriage is experiencing normal challenges or has crossed into toxic patterns that need repair.

Module 4 - Understanding Your Relationship

Part 1: What Happened
Explore how attachment theory and early caregiver influences shaped your romantic relationship, and gain clarity on the emotional events and patterns that led you to consider divorce. With this information, we will help you determine what more you can do to improve your situation (if anything more). 

• Identify the stages of dissatisfaction, from early frustrations to emotional detachment, and assess your current position.
• Reflect on whether repair is possible or if deeper emotional wounds need tending before moving forward.
• Understand why feelings of anger and grief often resurface even after your partner shows a willingness to change.

Part 2: What Drew You to Each Other
Explore how early attachment styles shaped your attraction to your partner, and uncover the unconscious patterns that influence your relationship today.

• Learn how your childhood attachments affect your emotional needs, conflict resolution, and relationship dynamics.
• Reflect on the ways familiar yet painful behaviors from your past are showing up in your marriage.
• Understand why you're drawn to certain partners and how these patterns may offer opportunities for healing or further hurt.

Module 5 - Understanding Your Inner World

Part 1: Uncovering the Depths of the Psyche
Learn how your subconscious mind drives your thoughts, behaviors, and relationships, and uncover the past experiences that may be impacting your present.

• Understand how subconscious pain and past traumas shape your reactions and emotional triggers in relationships.
• Explore how unresolved wounds from childhood influence your ability to connect or create barriers in your current relationship.
• Gain tools to bring subconscious programming into your awareness, empowering you to make conscious changes.

Part 2: The Self
Discover the true essence of your Self and learn how to access it as the guiding force in your decision-making and relationships.

• Learn how to differentiate between your true Self and the subconscious parts that block you from accessing calm, clarity, and compassion.
• Understand how the core qualities of the Self—like courage, creativity, and intuition—can lead you in your relationship journey.
• Begin to identify and release the triggers and wounds that prevent you from fully accessing your Self.
  BONUS! Self-Visualization Audio Meditation to guide you in reconnecting with your true Self.

Part 3: Inner Parts
Explore the different inner parts of your psyche and understand how they interact with each other and with your Self.

• Learn how different inner parts (like the Inner Critic or Perfectionist) influence your behaviors and relationships.
• Understand the concept of the Exiles, wounded parts that carry unresolved pain, and how they impact your life.
• Discover how to use the wisdom of your Self to heal these inner parts and restore internal harmony.
  BONUS! Inner Critic Meditation to help you quiet self-judgment and self-criticism.
  BONUS! Exile Part Meditation to support healing the most wounded parts of yourself.

Module 6 - Changing Your Relationship With Self

Part 1: How to Reveal the Blocks
Discover how to turn triggers into tools for personal growth by revealing and addressing subconscious blocks.

• Learn to recognize triggers as opportunities to uncover repressed emotions and past wounds.
• Understand how to create space between stimulus and response to break automatic reactions.
• Gain techniques to identify root experiences and beliefs behind your emotional responses.

Part 2: Understanding and Expressing Your Needs
Cultivate the ability to understand and communicate your needs effectively in relationships.

• Explore your relationship with personal needs and the stories you carry about expressing them.
• Learn how to articulate your needs to your partner and assess their capacity to meet them.
• Understand how unmet needs can influence your relationship decisions.

Part 3: Connecting to Your Body for the Answers
Reconnect with your body's innate wisdom to access deeper insights and guidance.

• Discover how to tune into your body's messages and interpret physical sensations.
• Learn mindfulness practices to process emotions and foster a mind-body connection.
• Gain tools to make grounded decisions by listening to your body's signals.
  BONUS! Body Visualization Meditation to deepen your connection with your body's wisdom.

Part 4: Loss of Self-Trust and How to Restore It
Rebuild trust in yourself to make confident decisions aligned with your true Self.

• Identify the internal parts that undermine self-trust and understand their origins.
• Understand how ambivalence can serve as a protective mechanism and how to move beyond it.
• Develop strategies to strengthen self-trust by reconnecting with your inner Self.

Module 7 - Changing Problematic Patterns With Your Partner

Part 1: Owning What's Ours and Identifying What's Theirs
Learn how to take responsibility for your role in relationship dynamics and understand how your partner's behaviors contribute to the patterns.

• Gain insight into how relationship dynamics are co-created, with both partners playing a role.
• Discover how working on yourself can lead to positive changes in your relationship, regardless of your partner's actions.
• Take ownership of your part in the cycle, and clean up your side of the street for healthier current and future relationships.

Part 2: Partner and Relationship as Teacher
See how your relationship serves as a mirror, reflecting back the areas of yourself that need attention and growth.

• Understand how your partner's behavior can reveal your own blind spots and triggers.
• Learn how unmet needs and expectations can teach you more about what you truly desire in a relationship.
• Explore how past experiences influence your current relationship patterns, and how to use this awareness for healing and growth.
  BONUS! Partner Visualization to guide you in reflecting on what your relationship has taught you.

Module 8 - The Decision

Part 1: Owning Your Story and The Power of Choice
Gain clarity on the importance of owning your story and making empowered decisions as you navigate your relationship journey.

• Understand the importance of owning your story, embracing the good and the hard to find peace and psychological resilience.
• Explore how blaming, shaming, or vilifying keeps you stuck in unhealthy patterns, while owning your narrative opens the door to healing.

• Discover how taking ownership of your experience allows you to choose the meaning it holds and step into your power.

Part 2: The Options
Explore the different options for moving forward, whether it’s working on the relationship, separating, or making other changes.

• Learn about couples therapy and how it can help rebuild communication, trust, and understanding in your relationship.
• Discover Discernment Counseling, a therapeutic approach to help you decide whether to stay in the marriage or move forward with divorce.
• Understand how separation, when approached with intention and clarity, can offer new perspectives and valuable insight into your relationship.

BONUS: Module 9 - Divorce

As we come to the end of this course, we offer a bonus module to guide those of you who have chosen to move forward with divorce. We offer tools to navigate grief, fear, and practical considerations while supporting you and your children as you create a new future.

Grief
Understand that grief is a natural part of the divorce process, and learn how to move through it in a healthy way.

• Explore the stages of grief and learn how to balance between experiencing loss and moments of restoration.
• Recognize that emotions may resurface and that healing requires time and patience.
• Learn techniques to move through grief without getting stuck in one emotional state.

Fear
Manage the overwhelming fears that arise after deciding to divorce.

• Understand how your mind reacts to divorce with fear and worst-case scenarios as a protective mechanism.
• Learn to sit with your decision before diving into problem-solving, so you don’t override your innate wisdom with fear.
• Gain strategies to process fear and address the logistics of divorce without letting anxiety take over.

Where Do I Begin?
Get clear guidance on the first steps to take when preparing for divorce.

• Discover the importance of building emotional support and organizing your finances.
• Learn about divorce mediation and legal options to help you navigate the process.
• Explore resources like support groups and educational tools to better prepare for the changes ahead.

Effects of Divorce on Children
Understand how divorce can impact children and learn strategies to minimize negative effects.

• Discover the common concerns around divorce and children’s emotional well-being.
• Learn how to create a supportive environment that fosters resilience in your children.
• Explore positive outcomes of divorce, such as reduced conflict and increased quality time with each parent.

How to Approach Children About the Decision to Divorce
Get guidance on how to talk to your children about divorce in a way that supports their emotional needs.

• Learn how to communicate with your children as co-parents and present a unified plan.
• Understand the importance of validating your children’s emotions and allowing them space to grieve.
• Explore the role of rituals and ceremonies in helping both you and your children process the end of the relationship.