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Heal the Wounds That Shape Your Patterns,
One Guided Step at a Time

 

The Origin Healing Method is a five-part series of in-depth digital guidebooks designed to help you move from simply understanding your Origin Wounds to healing them in your everyday life.

✔ Instant Access   ✔ Self-paced   ✔ Downloadable PDFs

Get The Origin Healing Method for just $97

From the national bestselling author of The Origins of You

Based on nearly two decades of clinical experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist

Trusted by a community of nearly one million readers and followers

When Insight Isn’t the Problem

 

Sometimes it can feel like you know so much about yourself, and yet you still don’t know what to do with all of that awareness.

You can see your patterns clearly, and maybe even connect the dots with ease…

The way you put everyone else first and then feel resentful or invisible.

The panic that rises when someone pulls away even a little.

The shutdown or over-explaining that happens the moment you feel misunderstood.

The overthinking, overfunctioning, or going numb whenever you feel unsafe or “too much.”

You understand what’s happening. But in the moment, it’s still so easy to slip back into the same survival strategies you’ve known for years, the ones your nervous system has learned to use to keep you safe.

Those feelings can be exhausting and heartbreaking. A part of you knows you’re capable of something different: more honesty, more ease, more grounded moments where you stay with yourself rather than abandoning your needs, disappearing behind a wall, or criticizing yourself later.

It’s Time to Rethink Your Approach to Healing

What if there was a way to learn how to be in a relationship with your wounds in a different way?

What if you had a grounded framework to return to, so healing stops being an abstract idea and becomes something you can actually practice — conversation by conversation, choice by choice, day by day.

You don’t need more insight about what’s “wrong” with you.

What’s been missing is a clear, compassionate pathway to create lasting change, one real-life moment at a time.

Introducing The Origin Healing Method

A five-part series to help you heal the wounds that shaped you. 

This method comprises five Wound Guidebooks designed to help you move from awareness to healing through practical reflection, guided prompts, and evidence-based exercises that help you understand and shift the patterns that keep you stuck.

Each one focuses on one of the five core origin wounds — Worthiness, Belonging, Prioritization, Trust, and Safety — and gives you the tools to start transforming them in your everyday life.

If you’re ready to go beyond insight and into practice, The Origin Healing Method is here to walk you through it — one guidebook at a time.

Years of Therapy Inside Each Guidebook

 

Each Wound Guidebook that comprises The Origin Healing Method is a digital, downloadable PDF over 200 pages long that you can print out or view on your computer or tablet. Every guidebook is fully fillable, so you can type directly into the pages from any device, and is designed to feel like a therapeutic-style companion for each specific Origin Wound.

INSIDE, YOU'LL FIND:

✔ A clear overview of the wound
What this wound is, how it forms, and the core beliefs it tends to create. 

✔ How the wound shows up in real life
Concrete examples of patterns and behaviors tied to that wound, so you can start seeing it in your everyday reactions. 

✔ Guided reflection + pattern-mapping exercises
Questions and prompts to help you connect the dots between your past experiences and the cycles you find yourself in now. 

✔ Nervous-system-aware practices
Gentle tools you can reach for when the wound is activated, to help your body feel safer and more supported in the moment.

✔ An Origin Healing Practice for each wound
A step-by-step guided exercise (with an accompanying audio from Vienna) to meet the younger parts of you that carry this pain and offer them something new.

✔ Real-life integration prompts
Small, doable exercises to bring into your relationships and daily life, so you’re not just understanding your wound — you’re practicing new ways of responding to it. 

✔ A four-week healing plan
A week-by-week structure with daily practices—morning exercises to set the tone for the day and evening reflections to integrate what came up—so you can build consistency and create real change over time.  

These guidebooks are structured healing experiences built on decades of clinical expertise. They are designed to help you bridge the gap between understanding your wounds and learning how to respond differently when they’re triggered in real life.

Five Wounds, One Whole Picture

 

You’ll likely resonate most strongly with one Origin Wound — the one that feels loudest or most familiar. And you may also recognize yourself in a few others (or all five), especially in different relationships or at different times in your life.

As you get to know each one, you’ll start seeing how they show up not only in you, but also in the people you love — bringing more clarity, compassion, and context to your relationships. There’s a deep kind of healing in being able to understand the Origin Wounds of your partner, or the most important people in your life, because when you can see the childhood pain underneath their reactions, so much starts to make sense.

Here’s a closer look at each of the five Origin Wounds.

WORTHINESS WOUND

The Worthiness Wound is the deeply ingrained belief that you are not enough, valuable, or lovable as you are. It can show up as people-pleasing, perfectionism, and over-functioning in relationships — trying to earn love by being agreeable, helpful, or “on top of everything.” You might constantly scan for signs that someone is upset with you, fear rejection if you’re not “good enough,” or hide your true thoughts and feelings because you worry they’ll be a burden.

BELONGING WOUND

The Belonging Wound is the deeply ingrained belief that you aren’t accepted and respected as you are. Your differences are what keep you separate, rejected, or feeling like an outsider. It can show up as a persistent sense of otherness, a constant need to adapt in order to be accepted, and feeling like you have to choose between being yourself and being included. You might find yourself shape-shifting to match the room, scanning for signs of rejection or disapproval, or trying to fit into relationships, workplaces, or communities that don’t really align with who you are—just to avoid feeling alone.

PRIORITIZATION WOUND

The Prioritization Wound is the belief and experience that your needs are chronically less important or deprioritized by the most important people in your life. This wound often shows up as over-functioning in relationships, saying yes when you want to say no, and hyper-focusing on other people’s emotions while neglecting your own. Over time, you can feel overlooked, like an afterthought, chronically disappointed by people who don’t prioritize you, and resentful or burned out from carrying the weight of the relationship.

TRUST WOUND

The Trust Wound is the deeply ingrained belief that you can’t fully rely on others — that betrayal, deception, or abandonment are inevitable. It often shows up as hyper-independence, guardedness, and over-control, or as constantly scanning for red flags, testing people, and struggling to truly relax into vulnerability. You might find yourself keeping everyone at arm’s length, or swinging between trusting too quickly and not trusting at all, and repeatedly feeling blindsided or let down.

SAFETY WOUND

The Safety Wound is the deeply ingrained belief that the world is unsafe and that you have to stay hypervigilant or in control to protect yourself. It teaches you that your safety is not guaranteed, and not something people honor, protect, respect, advocate for, and attune to. Your overall well-being is not cared for or considered, often leaving you in harm’s way. And sometimes it’s not that anyone did something wrong—your nervous system simply learned, through an experience you couldn’t control, that the world can turn unsafe without warning. It can look like constantly scanning for what might go wrong, feeling unable to fully relax in relationships or environments, avoiding vulnerability, or clinging to “safe” people and routines even when they’re not actually good for you. You might withdraw to protect yourself, feel paralyzed by change or uncertainty, or assume others will eventually hurt, betray, or abandon you.

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When You Only Work With One Wound, You Only See Part of the Pattern

You might feel your Worthiness Wound most in dating, your Belonging Wound in groups, and your Safety or Trust Wounds in conflict — all while your Prioritization Wound quietly keeps you saying yes when you’re already at capacity. These wounds don’t operate in separate lanes; they often overlap and interact, shaping how you protect yourself and how you reach for connection.

That’s why The Origin Healing Method brings all five guidebooks together. Working with each wound in turn helps you see the whole picture of your patterns and start recognizing what’s happening not only in you, but also in the people you love — so their reactions feel more understandable and less personal.

The Origin Healing Method gives you a complete, therapeutic-style set of tools you can return to in different seasons of your life.

Get The Origin Healing Method and work with all five Wound Guidebooks for $97 

 

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Meet Your Guide

VIENNA PHARAON

Vienna Pharaon is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought-after relationship therapists, known for making healing accessible and compassionate. She has practiced therapy for nearly 20 years and is the founder and owner of the group practice Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy. Her work has reached millions through her bestselling book The Origins of You, her online community, and media features in outlets such as The New York Times, Netflix, Vice, and The Economist, and she has led workshops for organizations including Peloton and Netflix. Vienna received her Master of Science in Marriage & Family Therapy from Northwestern University. She is widely respected by both peers and readers as a leading voice in the field of relationships and family dynamics.

What People Are Saying About Vienna’s Origin Wounds Work

 

These testimonials are for Vienna’s book The Origins of You, which introduced the Origin Wounds framework at the heart of the Wound Guidebooks and sparked a common question: “How do I keep going with this work?” Whether or not you’ve read the book, these guidebooks give you that next step.

THOMAS L.

“Vienna Pharaon’s The Origins of You is one of the most eye-opening, compassionate, and transformative books I’ve read in years. It is not just a book about self-help or psychology – it’s a map to understanding who we are at our core, why we behave the way we do, and how we can finally break free from the patterns that have held us back.”

KAYLIN W.

“None have articulated so clearly what Vienna has in Origins of You… Vienna lays the foundation for understanding what origin wounds look like and how they manifest… Then, she offers a roadmap for approaching conflict and communication while healing the wounds that are still showing up for us today.”

RACHAEL L.

“Learning the language of Origin Wounds gave me an insightful new perspective on myself; it helped me to connect the dots in an intriguing, self-compassionate, sometimes painful, but ultimately revolutionary way.”

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It’s Time To Walk a New Path

 

Awareness is a powerful first step in your healing process, but it shouldn’t be the last.

The Origin Healing Method is here to walk alongside you as you practice new ways of responding, relating, and caring for yourself and the people you love.

One page, one prompt, one small, courageous choice at a time.

Get the five Wound Guidebooks of The Origin Healing Method

If you’re ready to stop reliving the same painful cycles and start feeling more grounded, honest, and at home in yourself, this is your invitation to begin.